Mormon Women is doing an amazing series on Pornography addiction right now. Women (and men) who have had to deal with this hell are speaking out and educating others about their experiences. It's worth reading, dear reader, and educating ourselves about how to deal with this vice! I honestly think that the biggest mistake we can make as wives and mothers is to assume it won't affect our lives. Hopefully it won't! But that's not a chance we should take.
So, how do we go about taking a stand against it?
There are many, many ways, of course. But today I want to just discuss one of those ways: Talking about it with our kids.
Wait, what? Talk about p*rn with our kids?! What the? No, not like that. Scenario: Little Junior finds a magazine at a friend's house or sees a commercial or a movie or a sitcom... He has a physical reaction to what he sees. Will he be able to:
A. Come and talk to you or your husband about it?
B. Know what it is he is experiencing?
C. Know to get away from that type of stuff as fast as his little legs can carry him?
We can't always be there to protect our children from everything. We can't stop their curiosity simply by demanding it. In most cases, extremism, demands, threats, etc. makes them run the other way, dig in their heels, and become secretive with their thoughts and feelings. So, what can you do in this scenario and others? Here are my ideas (and please share yours!):
A. Be honest and open with your kids about sexuality and physical responses to visual stimuli (age appropriate, for sure, though!).
B. Don't freak out if you are confronted with this scenario.
C. Let Junior talk about their feelings. Don't demonize them! For most kids, they are very young and don't even know what is going on. Their feelings need to be validated and explained.
D. Be honest and frank about the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Talk about why our bodies and minds are sacred. Help them understand (again, age appropriateness) what is happening to them physically and why.
E. Let the child lead the discussion. Just like with basic questions of sex, some kids aren't ready to know about it all. Sometimes, the "open door" policy on these subjects is best; let them know you will always answer their questions honestly and respectfully.
F. Pray to know what to say --and when to say it! Guidance from the Holy Ghost trumps all worldly expertise.
What have you done with your kids? How did/How will you respond to this scenario? What are you doing to fortify your home against this filth? [Cardalls, I know you just did a post like this, so fire away! :) ]