Sometimes, I think I'm too easy on my kids.
They tend to get away with things. I let them. I let them fudge on chores, homework, personal hygiene. I get too tired to fight it. It's beyond frustrating at times. The entitlement they feel about video games, TV, books, friends, art... it's psychotic, really. But who lets them indulge? Hmmm?
I'm down here because I have determined not to yell and scream anymore. I had to remove myself from the situation. I know they are still upstairs NOT doing what they are supposed to be doing. I know I'm enabling them AGAIN. But I had to leave the scene of the potential crime.
I know I'm not alone. Every household deals with children who won't obey, won't do chores, refuses to help, etc. Some homes have it better than others, though. I know this because I've seen it. What's the difference, eh? What makes some better than others? I've had time to think about this and I've decided that it's the parents. Yeah, some children are inherently a bit more challenging than others, but for the most part, it's parenting. It's attitude. It's the ability to be firm, kind, and respectful. But firm. Without yelling/screaming. I know this because I've seen parenting like this. It exists, dear reader. It does. And their children aren't perfect, but they are respectful, obedient, and kind.
My greatest fears in life aren't for myself. They are for my children. I worry that they will turn out as the "boils on the butt of society" (Steel Magnolias, anyone?) and will lose themselves in selfishness. All I want for them is to turn out honest, kind, good-hearted, and hard workers. I want to see them succeed. I want them to want to succeed.
On days like today, though, I find myself floundering. "What's the point?" I ask myself. They won't listen; they don't care. Maybe I should just let them play all day; forget the chores. Blah!
Yeah, that won't do. Doesn't make sense. I need to find a quote.
Okay, here we go:
...(M)ay I say to mothers collectively, in the name of the Lord, you are magnificent. You are doing terrifically well. The very fact that you have been given such a responsibility is everlasting evidence of the trust your Father in Heaven has in you. He knows that your giving birth to a child does not immediately propel you into the circle of the omniscient. If you and your husband will strive to love God and live the gospel yourselves; if you will plead for that guidance and comfort of the Holy Spirit promised to the faithful; if you will go to the temple to both make and claim the promises of the most sacred covenants a woman or man can make in this world; if you will show others, including your children, the same caring, compassionate, forgiving heart you want heaven to show you; if you try your best to be the best parent you can be, you will have done all that a human being can do and all that God expects you to do.
That's better. I feel better. I'm breathing, I'm refocusing.
Off to supervise chores. With conviction this time!