I'm nervous about posting this, because I know family members will read it. But I feel I need to vent a little, and my blog has always been a good place to do it.
DH has a cousin that lives near us. She and I were always fairly close, but not so much now that they have moved about 20 minutes away. It's amazing what 20 minutes can do! Anyway, we've had all of our children around the same time (our oldest kids are 6 weeks apart), and for the most part, we've helped each other out, watching kids, going to the hospital, etc. doing things that family members do when a new baby arrives.
Well, she and I are pregnant again at the same time. Her baby is due this month, but we've been anticipating the birth for a while. I just assumed I'd get a phone call from either her husband, her sister (who lives near her), or our other cousins in the area when the baby came.
So, one day (Thursday), I'm thinking, "hmmm, I wonder if she had her baby?" and so being silly, I just posted something on our family website to ask, rather than call her and bother her with more "are you still pregnant?!?!" questions that ALL pregnant women hate to hear so close to birth (as if we need to be reminded!!). Well, the next day, my SIL, who lives 2 states away, posts not only the information of the birth that occurred on MONDAY, but pictures that were sent to her as well via email.
Now, I don't expect to be the first person on the list. I don't even expect a phone call the first day or two. But FIVE days? And nothing? Still nothing. I didn't reply to the information because I was afraid I would come off as a jerk. And I probably do. But my feelings were deeply hurt (still are). I mean, not only are we family, but we live so close! I was looking forward to taking a gift or flowers to her in the hospital, etc. but now I'm completely deflated. And I don't have time to drive out to their home --we're leaving Monday morning for California and Christmas HAS to be done before then --and so now I just don't know how to feel or react.
Am I just being silly? I mean, this is a birth of a brand new baby. Another cousin. Another family member, and I just feel like I wasn't important enough to tell. Part of me thinks maybe I'll just conveniently leave her off the list when our baby comes, but honestly, I have a feeling she'd react the same way I am.
I know I'll get over it in time, but man, this just sucks.
How would you react? How would you feel? Am I just totally off right now?