I have a few moments before General Conference begins this morning, and so I thought I'd catch up on my blog. I know blog posts flow better when they focus on one subject, but I don't have time for several blog posts. And btw, have any of you noticed how much my blogging has slowed these last two weeks? I have, and I know it's directly related to my crazy schedule. But that's a good thing, and as much as I tell myself to stop the blogging all together, I don't think I ever could. :)
We are "Ferberizing" #4. Brandon and I finally had a serious discussion on the inability for him to sleep at night. Brandon stated: "Our other kids always slept great, and I know it's because we let them cry it out for a few days. We haven't done it with #4, and I know --I just know --that's why he won't sleep." So, we started on Wednesday night. And just to give you a picture, this isn't about going to sleep awake --this cute kid of ours will sleep for about 3 hours and then get up and cry. Then he'll wake up in another 2-3 hours and cry. Sometimes I nurse him, sometimes I don't --and honestly, he doesn't need it. He's 8 months old and drinks 8 oz. at 8PM. If he decided to sleep until 7AM, his body would be okay (and if for some reason, dear reader, you feel to contradict me in this logic, stop now. I'm not up for a debate about my child's health.). What's the root of the problem, then? He doesn't know how to put himself back to sleep without intervention. So we're changing this. Wednesday night, he cried for a good hour or more (starting around midnight). Thursday he cried for about 40 minutes (starting around 11PM). Friday night he cried for about 25 minutes (at 8:30PM) and then again for 10 minutes (around 2AM). Last night, he cried for about 15-20 minutes (around midnight). And he hasn't nursed in three days. That's right. The kid is weaned. And miraculously, it was self-weaning! I promised myself to keep nursing him, but 4AM was the earliest I'd go. All three nights, he slept until almost 7AM! Of course, it's bittersweet. I really wanted to nurse him for a year, but when he was biting me, I knew it wasn't going to happen. Anyway, I'm glad we're finally doing this. I've gotten more sleep in the last 4 days then I have since before he was born! Hooray for sleep! [disclaimer: we don't just let him "cry it out". We follow the Ferber method pretty well --we do go in to comfort him; we just don't pick him up.]
I have set a new goal for myself (to go along with the other gazillion): NO yelling or hitting of any kind when it comes to #3, #2, and #1. Luckily, #1 and #2 don't get spanked anymore anyway. The yelling is there, though. #3 is so exasperating, though, and so I find myself spanking him more than I should/want. I started this goal on Tuesday (or was it Wednesday?) mostly because the kid is turning into a monster, and I know it's because of the way I react to his misbehavior. So, I set this goal to be calm. It hasn't been perfect, but I can honestly say that the yelling is almost gone and the spanking has only happened once (now imagine a 3 year old boy with a feisty attitude, no respect for authority, who gets pleasure out of teasing everyone. Then you can see why it's hard not to get angry with him!). Time-outs have increased (ten-fold!), but I think he's starting to learn. He apologizes more sincerely now and I've noticed an increase in respect for my authority. It's hard, people --dang hard --not to just play the I'm-the-adult-and-bigger-than-you card, but it seems to be paying off. I just have to be patient. And calm. Breathe, breathe, breathe...
I LOVE General Conference. I think it's the best thing ever! The only thing that would make it bliss would be children that loved it, too. :) Elder Holland is my favorite. So is Elder Oaks. Oh, and President Hinckley, too. And Elder Bednar. And...okay, so I like them all. But Elder Holland has such a way of chastising with love. He pierces my heart to the center and I love to be chastised by him. His talk on the way we speak from the April 2007 Conference is something I'm--obviously--still working on.
Now that #4 is weaned, I'm thinking about planning a get-a-way with Brandon. Any ideas for an over-nighter?
Brandon left this morning for SLC. He found out on Tuesday that his Mission President will be in Utah for a mission reunion. Mission reunions happen a lot around conference; especially in the SLC area. However, Brandon has not had a reunion with his Mission President ever. We lived in Utah for 10 years, and not one time did his mission have a reunion. Why? His Mission President is Australian and lives in --you guessed it! --Australia. And now, out of the blue, he is in the States and they are having the reunion tonight. Of course, it happens the weekend we are watching two of Brandon's cousins. So driving there for the weekend was out of the question. But he needed to go-- so I made him buy tickets and go. I hope he has a good time!
Okay, that is all for now. I'm off to watch Conference! [on my couch, of course :)]