Tuesday, September 12, 2006

My pregnant friend is REALLY sick...

I am a lucky woman.

During pregnancy #1 I felt better, looked better, and acted better than I ever had in my life.

Pregnancy #2 was full of nausea and fatigue, but I still felt pretty great.

Pregnancy #3 was just like pregnancy #1. Awesome.

Pregnancy #4 was like #2, except the nausea went away around week 14. So far, it's better than #2.

I am really blessed, I feel, because I get pregnant fairly easily, I have wonderful pregnancies, and then I have fabulous labor and deliveries. I guess I got good hips.

But I have a friend, also on her 4th pregnancy, but she is in the hospital. Again.

My friend has 3 kids --all 16 months apart. Out of those 27 months that she was pregnant, she was sick for about 21 of them. Mostly in and out of hosptials and hooked up to IV's at home. She and her husband waited some time before #4 and of course, with good reason. Her #1 started kindergarten like my #1 this year, her #2 is in preschool, and #3 is almost 3 years old. So she has a pretty nice gap and personally I think it's easier for her to know that her children are older. They are more easily taken care of than small babies/toddlers.

My question is this: what can I do for her? She already has sisters, her mom, her in-laws, etc. living at the house helping out. What more could I do? She's a good friend and a wonderful person. She's actually MY visiting teacher (one of the best I've ever had) and her husband is the counselor in the Bishopric that I report to. I feel at a loss to know what to do.

Any ideas?


Anonymous said...

Okay, Cheryl-
I've been catching up on your blog, and I have something to say concerning your 10-year. I have to be honest. I don't plan on going to my reunion, and I would especially boycott if there was a "family" day. Although it is a good idea, you must remember that there may be many in your class who do not have families yet. Especially coming from a Mormon community, you do feel ostracized enough when your single that it would just magnify it if there was a "family day" that was included in the price, and I was made to pay for it, even though I have no family of my own. I am not against married people, and I am not a "bitter" single person, I just wanted my voice to be heard, because I don't think a lot of married people really realize what they do to those who are totally happy with their lives, they just aren't married yet, and decide to try to include them and show off their families. We love you guys, and we have nothing against you, but I will say it is a little difficult. Well, it's a good thing I only know you, Cheryl, and no one else that reads this blog. I love you and I really am planning on seeing you sometime. (Weekend nights are my nights to visit all my married friends. Sad, I know, but true) ;-)

Anonymous said...

Okay, so I just reread it after I posted, and "your" is supposed to be you're. Sorry! I'm not an idiot!

Cheryl said...

Not sure why you didn't post this on my "reunion" post instead of my pregnant friend post... :) :)

Hey, I hear ya. That's why a "family day" will be free. We're not expecting money and we're not providing food.

But to be honest, you have to understand that a lot of us do have kids. And a lot of us would be completely turned off with the fact that we're seeing all of our old friends, but not their kids. I am VERY excited to see some of our friends' children. And I'm looking forward to some showin' off myself. I've got 3 great kids, and I'm proud of it. I don't want to pretend they don't exist, and I don't want to exclude them from everything that weekend.

But you are not alone. And we really are taking that into consideration --singles, who might not even have dates to bring as well, and those that may. But nothing is finalized yet. That will happen Sept. 30th. If you're headed to Blackfoot that weekend, I'd love to see you. Or see you at the meeting. HAHA!! :)

P.S. Love you right back! You name the weekend, and I'll be there! Oh, and your grammar is fine. I'm sure mine is terrible... :)