There is now a new schedule hanging up. A daily routine, if you will. We begin at 8AM with scriptures and prayers and we move onto chores, School, and our daily activity. Chore charts have been updated. More have been added (what with all the "I'm bored!" time they seem to be having). I even have a list of "if-you-do-these-you-can-earn-money" chores.
I'm constantly bewildered with my brain and my attitude because the whole "changing of the chores" and "making a schedule" is a result of the same thing I keep hashing and re-hashing and over-hashing: I need to be a better mom.
In Church today I was reminded again of the stuff I'm supposed to be teaching them and, of course, areas in my life I could improve in the personal spiritual arena (which always has a profound affect (effect?) on my mothering). My patience, my voice level, my ability to handle crisis (i.e. body fluids) --they all hinge upon MY personal growth and MY desire to improve.
Sure, I could ask the kids to just stop whining forever, clean up every mess they make, speak kindly to each other and their parents, and understand how I'm giving them wonderful experiences to make their characters great. But it doesn't work like that. I ask, but they don't care, nor can they, really. I mean, they do eventually. They do clean. They do understand. They do try. Innately, however, they have to push first. Push back, test boundaries, give into the natural wo/man. What's interesting, however, is that I have complete control over how they eventually understand all of it. Sort of. I mean, of course, these kids could understand everything from why we clean toilets to why we don't use the word "poo-poo head" and then still turn out to be total jerks. There are psycho-paths, you know! And some of them had good parents. Didn't they? But I'm leaning towards optimism when I say that if I can just suck it up and put on my big girl panties (as my buddy says), then I have more control and influence than I realize.
For example, tonight we implemented this new chore system and did what I now refer to as "Evening Chores." You may have already been doing something like this for years, since it's just a basic bedtime routine, but I'm not as great as you are, dear reader! I promise you, I'm not. I forget how basic routines, such as the following, can do wonders for the children's ability to find self-reliance, self-worth, and stick to a time-line. Anyway, here it is:
*Put on pajamas
*Dirty clothes in the hamper
*Tidy living room/kitchen
*Go to the bathroom/get a drink of water
It went well. It went fast. There are most nights when I forget to have them brush their teeth, but no more! Haha!
I'm sure I'll have to re-hash again in the future --near future --but for now, I'm happy that the kids are willing to comply with our new awesome schedule. Here's hoping it works for a while!
Do you have a routine? Does it work? Do you change it up constantly? Or do you just wing it?
Happy Father's Day to all the awesome dads out there! Especially mine. :)