He claims he'll be back in 8 days, but that doesn't reduce my stress. Or loneliness. Or anxiety that he's being safe. Granted, he's only there for business and some on-the-side-sight-seeing, so it's not as if he'll be crossing the border into Nepal or stealing a boat to spy on North Korea. But what if he gets hit by a car? Or his plane crashes? Or he's mugged and beaten? Or what if he's seduced by the lifestyle and decides not to come home?!?
(What is the lifestyle like in China? I wonder...)
Anyway, I miss him. He's not even there, yet! and I still miss him. He left bright and early this morning, and so all by myself I got the 4 kiddos ready for church. Wait a minute. I always get the kiddos ready for church by myself! (He has meetings on Sunday mornings.) Anyway, we arrived on time (that's not some feat, just fyi. We are always on time. I would blow a freakin' gasket if we weren't always on time! I will literally wake up an hour early to ensure we arrive on time because yes! It's that important to me) and I sat down in a pew with #4 as the 3 oldest took their places on the stand. It was the Primary Children's Sacrament Meeting Program, and their father missed it. Again! Yeah, I think he missed it last year too, due to sickness. And maybe even the year before. We're not sure. The point, however, is that he missed it. He will also miss a BYU football game (but luckily it's an away game) and Halloween this week.
But it's okay. This trip is important (business-wise) and it's exciting! Neither of us have been to China before, and I'm expecting cool gifts for knock-out prices. Or a trinket. Whichever.
The irony here about this whole travel thing is that Brandon promised me something when we first married: "I will never do business travel if you can't come with me."
Oh, the ignorance! The foolishness!
(I wrote about newlywed ignorance and foolishness here.)
Brandon has traveled many places for business since we've married, and I have rarely gone with him. There have been several trips as a reward for business, and I most definitely accompanied him on those! But business for business? No way, no how.
That's just business. And life.
I've adjusted to the life, too. Sometimes, it's nice when he leaves because then I can finish a book or two or watch my favorite TV show without having to compromise. Other times it's nice not having to worry about dinner; the kids exult in multiple chicken nugget dinners! Before he leaves we have lovely dates and fun family outings; when he comes home, there is joy all around and he knows how much he is loved.
So, I've adjusted. Travel is okay, it's not too burdensome. I mean, he's not a soldier like my brother. I don't have to adjust to living a year without him. It's only a few days here, a week or so there. My adjustment is cake. I've done it. I do it. I'll keep doing it.
But I'll always miss him when he's gone.
Does your spouse travel? If so, how often? Is it hard for you? Have you adjusted?