tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post7868276757793282857..comments2023-09-05T23:24:27.006-06:00Comments on Happy meets Crazy: Really Long Slightly Useful/Useless PostCherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10218614720786379961noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-47787879748660347712010-12-03T13:33:41.912-07:002010-12-03T13:33:41.912-07:00I too have hit the wall many times when it comes t...I too have hit the wall many times when it comes to single mommyhood and work. My husband is a project manager for a construction company and works VERY long hours. However he reminds me that it is no small miracle he still has a job at this point. I think we can express our viewpoints about their ambition/work etc. However I think it is very important not to nag or whine or make them feel bad about working hard and having ambition. It is so important to them to provide and their self esteem is highly connected to that role. PLUS I know so many women who would give ANYTHING to have as hard working and ambitious husband as I have. It is one reason I fell in love with him and I am so very grateful he is such a great provider. I have backed off saying much about it because I know he is doing his best and really loves being home with us as much as he possibly can!Cardallshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11892829000971779922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-45481294235281416922010-12-02T22:50:25.857-07:002010-12-02T22:50:25.857-07:00You guys will figure it out. It's a process.
...You guys will figure it out. It's a process.<br /><br />(But btw, if it helps you feel any better, an executive MBA is called that because those who are getting them are also working. Regular MBA programs are pretty much full time.)<br /><br />Personally? I think the job-and-school thing is pretty tough, so I think it's normal as the wife to struggle with it. It's HARD work for both of you!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08215431222961203620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-77996895269299497622010-12-02T16:16:16.183-07:002010-12-02T16:16:16.183-07:00What's so hard about finding a balance for you...What's so hard about finding a balance for your family is that what "balanced" is for one family may be totally out of control for another. Each family is unique in all the needs and wishes of the people who are in it. My husband got his MBA some years ago, and quite frankly the hours for people in the business world can really vary. He is gone more than 12 hours a day normally and during busy seasons easily does 80 hours in a week. But, he is highly driven and loves his work. We just try to enjoy the times he is around, and I've lowered my expectations. There are lots of people who work less than this, and every company varies a lot in its demands, but generally the workload for the average American worker has been increasing, particularly in the corporate world. And, with the unemployment rate being what it is, I am nervous to ask my husband to cut back at work, especially when layoffs happen from time to time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. My youngest kids are 5, and it is amazing how much time there is in the day for me to catch my breath and think for a moment. There are times and seasons in our lives, and right now you are in one of the very busiest. Best wishes to you!Anne Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13146624605292795577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-12439814539142397102010-12-02T08:38:00.322-07:002010-12-02T08:38:00.322-07:00I think we all spend a lot of time thinking about ...I think we all spend a lot of time thinking about how things will be better when... It's in our natures I guess and I'm not sure that it's all bad. Just don't forget to enjoy where you are too. (That's me talking to myself on your blog, just in case you were wondering.)Alison Wonderlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15764321314666554990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-34764064546520144712010-12-01T21:59:07.932-07:002010-12-01T21:59:07.932-07:00I think about the same sorts of things w/my hubby....I think about the same sorts of things w/my hubby...my favorite time is to get up early before anyone else. That's my "ME" time...I love being able to have that time and then snuggle w/my kiddos as they wake up in the morning.Emily & Co.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03698585311202907886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-29456819996546147872010-12-01T21:54:00.787-07:002010-12-01T21:54:00.787-07:00You're awesome and you two will figure things ...You're awesome and you two will figure things out. That doesn't make this time easy, but it will work out. You're too awesome for it not to. So is Brandon. You guys are open and talk. How could it not work out?<br /><br />And get a maid. It'll change your life. :)Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13914081924660422629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-48781275336637785862010-12-01T21:31:18.664-07:002010-12-01T21:31:18.664-07:00I think it is good to be open and upfront about yo...I think it is good to be open and upfront about your fears and concerns with your husband, especially before you get too far into things. Make sure you keep your priorities straight; getting on the same page with financial things can be harder than I thought it would be. A lot of times financial issues aren't really about the money itself; money is closely tied to so many emotional issues as well.<br /><br />Oh, and my sister-in-law does housecleaning as a part-time job. If you're looking for someone to clean your house she is awesome and charges reasonable rates. Let me know.FoxyJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17950095008611661757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-2277169942832439772010-12-01T21:16:38.815-07:002010-12-01T21:16:38.815-07:00Not that I know you or anything, but here are my 2...Not that I know you or anything, but here are my 2 cents. I've been reading your blog for a while now, sometimes I comment, mostly I just enjoy reading and don't always feel like I have anything of importance to say. Anywho, it's good that you are talking with your hubby about your fears now, he needs to know those fears. I think to many wives just accept the long hours as part of the job, something they have to put it, and as a good wife you just accept it and don't complain. Okay maybe that was just me, but I let it go on that way and I kept it to myself and complained to my sisters instead of to the person who I should have been talking with. So I guess I just wanted to say on that topic, keep talking to him about it, not in a nagging way but in and "I love you and need to see more of you" way.<br />Oh and my 2 cents on the getting time out by yourself, DO IT!! When I was still married and the then DH was working crazy hours and I never saw him, I never had time to myself. So I started hiring a YW who lived down the street every other friday after school. She would watch my kids while I went to the library and sat in a comfy chair and read. It was just what I needed, me time. I think every mom whether she is married or single needs "ME" time, so make sure you take it.Dorrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07868849480007230750noreply@blogger.com