tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post7820176052491774645..comments2023-09-05T23:24:27.006-06:00Comments on Happy meets Crazy: Holy Selfishness!Cherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10218614720786379961noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-79054113113734120132011-03-02T01:14:42.656-07:002011-03-02T01:14:42.656-07:00We just keep trying. I think one of the keys is to...We just keep trying. I think one of the keys is to keep our hearts open to the consistent reminders from lots of places about what matters most. If it came naturally, we wouldn't need the reminders, imo. It's part of what this journey of becoming is all about.<br /><br />Read this. You'll love it. <br /><br />http://scenesfromthewild.blogspot.com/2011/02/comeuppance.htmlMormon Women: Who We Arehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479667028999828222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-71113641333890706482011-03-01T22:16:52.190-07:002011-03-01T22:16:52.190-07:00I would read to everyone all at once--kill five bi...I would read to everyone all at once--kill five birds with one book, so to speak.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-57457465312211047892011-03-01T20:32:18.809-07:002011-03-01T20:32:18.809-07:00I sacrificed my feelings of competence.I sacrificed my feelings of competence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-72428598817973563352011-03-01T16:41:45.473-07:002011-03-01T16:41:45.473-07:00No thoughts on your dilemma certainly no advice bu...No thoughts on your dilemma certainly no advice but I did love your comment about tolerating. I'm a big tolerater around here. That's probably not a good thing.Alison Wonderlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15764321314666554990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-3682446215530875312011-03-01T15:12:32.526-07:002011-03-01T15:12:32.526-07:00I realized this same type of thing, although not i...I realized this same type of thing, although not in as much depth, a few weeks ago. I stay at home every day with my two pre-schoolers, yet when was the last time I planned a special activity for THEM? Other mothers plan crafts and activities for their kids, so why don't I? At first I blamed it on expense, since many things we can do would cost money, but that's a lousy excuse since I can do fun things that don't cost too much money. So... I planned a craft session to make Valentine's cards for their daddy. Then, a few days later, I had them roll out and cut out sugar cookies, then ice them (this was quite the adventure with a 3 and 1 yr old). I want to finger paint next (with pudding like the library story time did) and go swimming at the indoor pool by my house. <br />I don't consider any of these a big sacrifice since I enjoyed them too, but it was time with just my kids with no TV, and it made me feel like a better mom and my kids LOVED it. <br />One last thing: 45 months of pregnancy for your 5 kids is a HUGE sacrifice!!!!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10187301056264822609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-7982970798092496192011-03-01T15:02:59.041-07:002011-03-01T15:02:59.041-07:00I'm thinking that you are sacrificing much mor...I'm thinking that you are sacrificing much more than you realize. I think that Shauntae and Grandma Rozla nailed it. I think I might take the date night dare too. <br /><br />Now that all my kids are reading, I don't read to them much. I really should Just ten minutes with each of them a day would go along way, I'm thinking - I only have three so that would just be a half hour. With 5 kids, I would probably do less time...or make sure it gets spread out or do the older girls together or something. Otherwise it might get too overwhelming.<br /><br />Good luck!<br /><br />Oh - and I was SO irritated with that episode of Biggest Loser. I agreed with Jessie - just because he was old didn't mean that he didn't need to be there. I was disappointed how that team went into the weigh in deciding that they weren't going to win. I was disappointed that Jessie let the pressure get to him and that he purposely gained weight. Too much game play this season, imo.Amanda Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662814069840360787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-89266577063563085192011-03-01T13:50:30.610-07:002011-03-01T13:50:30.610-07:00Oh, and also you should really read to your kids. ...Oh, and also you should really read to your kids. Just for fun, not for homework. I have great memories of my father reading to me and my siblings. Pick some good, fun classics.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-53987228396971605422011-03-01T13:49:08.233-07:002011-03-01T13:49:08.233-07:00I sacrificed my sanity.
And also my abs.I sacrificed my sanity.<br /><br />And also my abs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-35773819243641972952011-03-01T12:22:11.218-07:002011-03-01T12:22:11.218-07:00I agree with "mother of the wild boys".....I agree with "mother of the wild boys"...those one on one "dates" will be something that you and your children will look back on and be so thankful for. We have tried to to them with our boys and it works great. Now there is only one at home...so it doesn't happen as often..but on Sunday's we try to play the game he wants to play or let him pick the Netflicks, or whatever it may be.<br />As for the reading...you love to read, and I'm sure you want your children to love to read...so read to them. Especially the little ones, the boys...because boys don't always love to read. and you aren't sacrificing anything for them...you are investing in their future.<br />i don't want to say that i "sacrifice" anything for my children. I look at it as building a memory that we both will look back on and smile. i make sure that i to ever event of theirs tht i possibly can (i am sure that is harder for you with more kids). i want them to know that i am there and i support them. i try to be involved in school...i let their friends come over, just about anytime they want). if things don't get done around the house...that is okay..i would rather my children have the memory.<br />and the traveling is important too, and all the other things you do as well. i wish that i could be like you and leave my kids and go on a trip...in 20 yrs of parenthood i think we have only left them 2-3 times...and i didn't like it to much...but that is just me.<br />you're doing great. you have great kids too!Judihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17644820597982881818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-46314859719883670292011-03-01T10:59:55.506-07:002011-03-01T10:59:55.506-07:00I'm proud of you. You are awesome.
BUT, I kno...I'm proud of you. You are awesome.<br /><br />BUT, I know you don't post things like this to fish for compliments. I know you are actually asking for ideas....so here is mine:<br />Schedule one-on-one Mom Dates with your kids. It doesn't have to cost money, you don't even have to leave the house. The important thing is that they know AND you know that the date time is all about them. They get to have your undivided attention for that time. Show them that you are writing the Date on your calendar, just like you would a Girls Night Out or a Date Night with your hubby. Let them choose an activity. And then make it happen...show your kids that their date with you matters. Leave multi-tasking behind and take time to look into their eyes. Let them talk and talk. Play that game they always want you to play. <br /><br />You choose how often this works for your family, you choose your budget of time and money...but let them choose how to spend their time with you. The benefits are phenomenal, you will grow so much closer to them and they will feel so loved.<br /><br />Do it Cheryl, I dare ya. ;)Mother of the Wild Boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09247511282238437472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-18223435981046781452011-03-01T10:46:19.931-07:002011-03-01T10:46:19.931-07:00Wow Cheryl, I have a lot of thoughts in my head bu...Wow Cheryl, I have a lot of thoughts in my head but I'm not sure how to put them into words. I got to thinking about what I sacrificed for my children. I went on trips without them with my husband ~ you do those to strengthen your marriage so that you have something when your kids are gone! Maybe you need to look at it as not what you are sacrificing but what you are giving. You made the decision to be a mom. I'm sure most of your waking thoughts are how to be a good mom. That is your life. You don't have to sacrifice to live your life if you are keeping covenants and doing the best you can do each day. Concentrate on the day and what you can do for your kids ~ not what you have to sacrifice for them. Being a mom is an eternal choice. Isn't just being a mom and trying to do good each day giving of yourself to those precious little people. I don't think as mothers we have to give up the trips with our sweetheart. You made a choice long ago and now you just live each day the best you can that day and if it wasn't so good then you repent and start over again the next day. If you are neglecting your kids (which I now you aren't) for the sake of blogging or writing or whatever then you need to sacrifice those things but if there is balance in your home and your life then be kind to yourself. You are awesome and your kids are awesome. Keep your covenants! Work hard on your marriage and the Lord will bless your children and your family! That is His promise to us. Pray ~ He will tell you what you need to do! Have a great day my friend!! I love you!Grandma Rozlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17141763604754979383noreply@blogger.com