tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post476208909572117686..comments2023-09-05T23:24:27.006-06:00Comments on Happy meets Crazy: It Doesn't Matter if People Like Me. But You Like Me, Right?Cherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10218614720786379961noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-39443449478910548962014-09-17T10:10:18.058-06:002014-09-17T10:10:18.058-06:00I was happy to discover this blog entry today--it ...I was happy to discover this blog entry today--it was just what I needed to read. Thank you!<br />-JeanJeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07132481396734601618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-92227458566849176512009-02-11T12:14:00.000-07:002009-02-11T12:14:00.000-07:00Sometimes...Definitely...Not always...Sometimes...Definitely...Not always...Mother of the Wild Boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09247511282238437472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-89753049651904101102009-02-11T01:28:00.000-07:002009-02-11T01:28:00.000-07:00I think you're funny (and awesome). And I know yo...I think you're funny (and awesome). And I know you're not the only one who can't stand people notliking them. My sisters are all that way. (Me? It doesn't really bother me to know someone doesn't like me. But them I'm cold and heartless, so what're you gonna do?)<BR/>Anyway, I just thought I'd tell you that I like you, I really really like you.Alison Wonderlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15764321314666554990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-985003006702796742009-02-09T14:36:00.000-07:002009-02-09T14:36:00.000-07:00Awesome comments people --and great advice. Thank ...Awesome comments people --and great advice. <BR/>Thank you!Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10218614720786379961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-41553133193723736412009-02-09T13:45:00.000-07:002009-02-09T13:45:00.000-07:00I really liked what Becky, I have a cat said. Ther...I really liked what Becky, I have a cat said. There are some some people out there that rub me the wrong way. I do what I can be to kind to others, but that doesn't mean that everyone is going to be my friend. It's hard to make and keep friends. I also care much less the older I get too. I feel secure in who I am and like myself so I'm good. :)flip flop mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13770484678729883256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-35518699547952002752009-02-09T12:51:00.000-07:002009-02-09T12:51:00.000-07:00First of all, an answer: Yes. I do care what peo...First of all, an answer: Yes. I do care what people think of me. BUT, I am learning to care less. I still choose to be kind and welcoming, etc., but I am trying to choose NOT to be obsessive, worried, losing sleep over whatever they might think of me.<BR/>Speaking from experience (and TaLaisa can back this up...just ask her because she knows...), I sometimes don't respond to emails for months on end...not because I don't like the person, but because I just forget to. I always keep them in my inbox until I do, though. So, maybe this friend is just busy? I know he/she has gotten in touch with others, but sometimes it just slips peoples' minds, ya know? One of the things I've had to come to grips with is the fact that yeah, it's nice to know someone from high school (or random stranger or whatever) likes me and it's nice to show them that I like them, too, but WAY more important than that is to show my family - the ones in my immediate presence every single day - that I like them more than anybody else. <BR/><BR/>There have been actual circumstances where those two have been in conflict with one another and I have lost a friend over it, but I have had to choose to be okay with that because my family is more important than they are. (You know, in my own sphere of responsibility...). And actually, on two of those occasions, when I calmly and without emotion wrote a letter to that friend explaining my thoughts and reasons for my actions, things turned out okay and our relationship is much healthier and much less demanding.<BR/><BR/>I'll stop now.Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13914081924660422629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-7065493142999445312009-02-09T11:11:00.000-07:002009-02-09T11:11:00.000-07:00Let me share with you my opinionated, tactless, ru...Let me share with you my opinionated, tactless, rude thoughts on this. But it is how I honestly feel. <BR/><BR/>I have people I simply don't like. Just do not get along with, don't see eye to eye, would never want to spend time with them unless forced to. I have to accept the fact that for every person I feel that way about, there is at least 1 person that feels that way about me. It doesn't mean I'm not civil with them or pick fights. I can get along and be around them if necessary. I just don't call and invite them over for coffee.<BR/><BR/>I live by something akin to the golden rule. I try not to gossip and speak ill of them behind their back (or to their face). I'm optimistic that they return the favor. I figure that if I don't make waves for them that they have bigger things to worry about than little ole me.<BR/><BR/>So there's my two cents. Don't spend it all in one place. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-15720412920797095252009-02-09T10:30:00.000-07:002009-02-09T10:30:00.000-07:00Cheryl I am totally the same way. I struggle with ...Cheryl I am totally the same way. I struggle with it, but for now I just try to keep my focus positive. However, I also know that I often avoid putting myself or my thoughts "out there" because I am so worried about what someone might think.<BR/><BR/>I am not looking forward to the day when I have to add my children to the list of people I have to please - right now they still think that I am awesome and know everything!Rachel and Nathan Fisherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14602418963526133376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-35873648771844030372009-02-09T10:11:00.000-07:002009-02-09T10:11:00.000-07:00The older I get, the less I care. I still kind of...The older I get, the less I care. I still kind of care, but give me a few more years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-27981550891689974032009-02-09T10:09:00.000-07:002009-02-09T10:09:00.000-07:00This could have been written by me: "I know I'm ab...This could have been written by me: "I know I'm abrasive and rude sometimes. I know I'm opinionated and tactless. I'm honest almost to a fault, but I tend to believe I have redeeming qualities."<BR/><BR/>I constnatly end up intimidating and/or offending people when all I'm trying to do is express an opinion or share something. It's bunches of fun. In the sense that it totally sucks.Annette Lyonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12493583432919249814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-24750973457834530562009-02-09T07:10:00.000-07:002009-02-09T07:10:00.000-07:00I most definitely relate to this. I want people to...I most definitely relate to this. I want people to like me for sure, but I have realized sometimes it's just not gonna happen and I'm ok with it. <BR/><BR/>Oh and if you are not comfortable with your midwife/medical provider, DON'T HESITATE to switch. Your instincts could keep you out of a world of pain (speaking from experience here) :).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-40681160161679500912009-02-09T00:07:00.000-07:002009-02-09T00:07:00.000-07:00Yup. I share the same obsession.And I would like t...Yup. I share the same obsession.<BR/><BR/>And I would like to think that I'm making progress, but I am not sure I am. <BR/><BR/>Yet.<BR/><BR/>Working on it.<BR/><BR/>Progress is great. yay for you.<BR/><BR/>And I DO like you. <BR/><BR/>So there.m_and_mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00552368137212513094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-59465393314933664312009-02-08T21:12:00.000-07:002009-02-08T21:12:00.000-07:00I have an obsession with people liking me too. But...I have an obsession with people liking me too. But I know that I also inadvertently hurt people's feelings because I'm spread so thin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-90017730162806290422009-02-08T18:12:00.000-07:002009-02-08T18:12:00.000-07:00I am always paranoid that I have offended people i...I am always paranoid that I have offended people in some way...people I know, people I don't know...I just HATE having people mad at me. Odd, I can be mad at someone to the point that I can't stand to look at them, but the instant they are mad at ME, I bend over backwards to try and make them like me again. I can't explain it. <BR/><BR/>But I am glad that YOU are getting better. Once you get it all figured out, maybe you can clue me in...assuming that you still like ME enough to share that sort of thing... :)FluffyChickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469289835652075845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-49163865373325270462009-02-08T17:36:00.000-07:002009-02-08T17:36:00.000-07:00Well I can see we are somewhat alike. I am so glad...Well I can see we are somewhat alike. I am so glad for your progress. I like your quote at the top. I hope to be more like that. Especially so no one will talk bad of me!Blogging and Blisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13940270422070086079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20526785.post-40551454868808775782009-02-08T17:16:00.000-07:002009-02-08T17:16:00.000-07:00Hooray for progress! You're awesome, Cheryl.Hooray for progress! You're awesome, Cheryl.Amanda Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662814069840360787noreply@blogger.com